The picture above is with: Me, Ryan, Sara, and Stu. Some of our closest friends in LA.
I ask myself this list of questions in regards to an old friend and sometimes new ones. When I analyze my friendship with someone, I want to make sure that I pick the right path to either continue my friendship with them or to put it on hold:
- When will I’ve had enough?
- What good have they brought into my life?
- Why do I have them as a friend?
- When have they made me happy?
- Do they give me more love or more anxiety?
- What’s my most memorable moment with them?
- Who is she/he as a person?
- Where did I first met her/him?
- What was my first impression of her/him?
- Why am I analyzing our friendship?
- What can I do different in my relationship with them to improve it?
- Do I want to improve the relationship?
This list can be more of a difficult than it seems. I had to analyze some friendships that I was involved with since middle school and the decision was inevitable. It was time to push away and to continue on with our lives in separate directions.
The who, what, where, when, why, how and do questions (5whd’s) have helped me through some long-time tough friendships.
In this picture: Anne, Susan, Alicia, Lisa, Isabel, Me, Rina and Nikki
These questions have also pushed me to improve my relationship with my friend as well. How? I answered the questions backward. I put my self in their shoes and wondered how they would answer the questions. The results can be eye-opening! xxx <3 A&L