To clarify the title, I believe I’m one of the wealthiest people alive when it comes to having solid friendships. I love making friends and I love being around all of them!
Some people don’t have any friends and would rather be alone.
Picture of some good times! Me, Harley, Beatrice, Yas and Daisy
I have to admit, I didn’t always have these many friends. I was quite a loner growing up and could barely count my best friends on one hand or one finger in that matter. I never knew when someone was talking behind my back, trying to steal a boyfriend or conspiring against me. I rather am alone than to bother with all the drama.
After a while, I got quite lonely and I had to change. I made a pact with myself that I would be:
- Less Judgmental
- Get out of being stuck in my ways
- Find patience
- Try to allow others to take the lead
- Give people a chance until proved otherwise
I use to look for a flaw with someone just to push them away. Either they would:
- talk too much
- complain all the time
- be a Debbi downer
- fair weather friend
- needy
- selfish
- negative
- slutty
- boring
- nothing in common
- broke and I would have to pay for everything
- user
- cheats on their relationship
- never listens
- only around when single
- criticizes your every move
Guess what, if someone has one of those attributes that is listed above, I bet someone can find something about you they don’t like either that’s listed there as well. So either accept that not everyone is perfect or you can be alone for the rest of your life.
Here is a picture of some amazing woman. A picture worth a thousand words!
When I meet someone that has more than the majority listed above, that’s when it’s time for me to push away. When I find it hard work to be around them, I know their friendship isn’t making me happy, then I know it’s time to end that friendship.
Conflicts happen in every human relationship. It’s up to you to face those conflicts and continue that relationship or that relationship will be lost.
It takes courage to admit when you are wrong and apologize. You will grow as a person and hopefully grow your friendship with that individual as well. xxx <3 A&L